How to Let Go of the Past and Forgive Someone That Hurt You

HOW TO FORGIVE PEOPLE THAT HURT YOU

"Forgiveness is letting go of the hope that the past could be any different" Iylanla Vanzant

Why do things happen? Why do bad things happen to good people? No one knows why there are good people that get sick or why the psychotic murderers gets to live... we never will either.
When we begin to look at struggles in our lives as lessons... and turn them into strength... it is easier to understand why things happen in our lives.

When we stop saying "why me?" and start thinking "what is the lesson" or find out how we can use the experience as a positive situation, we begin to open our mind and see the true meaning behind every experience.

Struggles in life were not created for us to be punished or to suffer, but the complete opposite. They are there to learn from and become successful and prosperous in life. They were meant for us to heal.

The Creator is NOT sitting next to Moses saying, "Hey Moses! Watch what I lay on Susie next!" as He elbows Moses in the arm and lets out a little giggle. NO! This is not how it works. The Creator wants nothing but greatness for each and every one of us and does not hand us anything that we cannot handle!

He knows that we are strong because He created us in His image. He knows our life from the day that we are born. I mean, we planned it with Him before we entered this world anyway, right?

I sometimes wonder what the hell I was thinking when I sat down and wrote my book of life with Him. Why would I write this life for me? Why would I choose the people that have come into my life?

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 I was just 32 years young when I was diagnosed with a progressive and debilitating disease of the nervous system. (RSD/CRPS) I had two young children at the time. I went through the "Why me?" and felt sorry for myself because I was stuck in a wheel chair and felt that everyone else was supposed to take care of me.

But after I became sick and tired of being sick and tired, I started to see how I was my own worst enemy and I had a choice to make. I could sit there and feel sorry for myself and stay in that wheel chair, or I could change the way I was thinking and take my experiences and turn them into something positive.

And again...Not everyone has the option to get up physically out of that wheel chair, but there is a choice on how we think and what we do with our life experiences.

We could be a catalyst for change and become an inspiration for others that are experiencing the same things in life. No, they may not be the exact same experiences... but they all go back to the same thing which we all seek in life... which is happiness and love.

When we stop saying, "I just want to be the old me again" which I have said many times... We begin to see what new things are ready to come into our lives. They can only come into our lives if we make room and allow it to come into our lives. So how do we make room for the new? We release the old. Let go of what you feel you no longer can do or "the old you" and re-create your life with "the new you".

Stop looking and what you CAN NOT DO... and start looking at what YOU CAN DO!

 I pray that you will find the answers to the questions and release the negative emotions that lie deep and dormant within your subconscious mind. When we suppress emotions from experiences in our past and do not confront them and release them, they tend to come out in other physical, emotional or mental forms. This is where the 4 "F"s come into play...

1. Find it: If we don't know there is a problem, we won't fix it. We need to dig deep and find what is hindering us from moving forward in life as well as what keeps us encircling in the same negative patterns. So the first thing to do is "FIND" what the issue is.

2. Face it: Facing our fears face to face is not easy. It takes courage. But when we finally do come face to face with what ails us and remove the mask of the ego, we become aware of what is going on behind the scenes. When we start taking responsibility for our own actions, we are able to move forward to the next step which is FEEL IT.

3. Feel it : Feeling it comes after we are able to face what bothers us. Whether it be a person that has hurt you, a place that reminds you of something bad, or something that holds memories.. they must be released. When we are finally able to FEEL the emotions behind the mask, we are able to forgive those who have hurt us and true healing begins.

4. Free it: Forgiveness is the key. When we have completely forgiven those who have hurt us and release or "FREE" the emotion attached to the experience, we are "free" to live our passion and purpose in life which is what we enjoy and love to do.

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10 Life Lessons I've Learned Over the Past Year

10 Life Lessons I've Learned Over the Past Year.

Over the years, we learn things through life, usually through hardship and tough experiences.
Here are just 10 of the many lessons that I have learned over the past year.
In the comments, tell me what important life lessons you have learned over the past year :)

1. Forgiveness

Forgiveness is the key to living a happy life. It is the most important thing we can do to free ourselves from emotional pain.  When we forgive, we no longer give the issue or experience energy. Like Iylanla Vanzant says, "Forgiveness is letting go of the hope that the past could be any different".
When we forgive, we are not saying that we condone to what the other person did, we are just no longer giving up our power to them.

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2. Take Care of You

Living in this busy, hectic world, we sometimes forget to nurture ourselves because we feel the need to take care of others. But in reality, if we are not happy, we can not truly make anyone else happy. It is like trying to give someone $10,000 dollars when you only have $1000 in the bank. How can you truly give something you do not hold within yourself?

3. Accept Others as They Are

You can not change anyone. They must want to change before change can happen at all. Accept people as they are. If they bring negative energy to your life, or affect your mood in a negative way, Either Limit or Eliminate them from your life. This leads to life lesson #4.

4. Limit or Eliminate what does not serve the highest good of all

There are people in this world that like to complain about everything. They want to blame all of their problems on everything... or everyone else.  They don't want to take responsibility for their own actions nor how they could be part

of the issues in their life. When we allow these people to constantly complain to us, they steal our energy.
When you are sensitive to energy, it really zaps yours and can make your mood change in a negative way. These people are known as energy vampires. When there are people in your life that do nothing but complain, you need to either Limit your time with them, or eliminate them completely from your life.

P.S. I'm not talking about having compassion for others, I'm talking about the people that just want to complain and do nothing to help themselves. For more info about this, Watch my video about how Energy Vampires can steal your energy at: https://youtu.be/m181-ARNSMo

5. Take Responsibility for Your Life

Have you ever hears the saying, "Carry Your Cross" ? When we carry our own cross, we take responsibility for our own actions.... we take responsibility for our own lives.
We need to figure out the "WHY?" of what is going on in our lives and take the steps to create positive change. Doing this, helps us to stop repeating patterns that do not help us, but hurt us. It stops us from repeating the old patterns that we learned from others; that cause us to continue to go around in that vicious circle of life.

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6.  Don't Live Someone Else's Dreams

Don't Live someone lost dreams. You are not responsible for their happiness, only your own. If You love to dance, then dance! Don't go to school to be a doctor because your parents want you to be a doctor and don't let others tell you that it is stupid, or you will never be successful in what you love to do.

Don't Live someone else's dreams because they were not able to do it themselves. There is a higher purpose as to why they did not do it as well.
Which leads me to Life Lesson #7.

7. Do What You Love and Love What You Do

Take what you absolutely love to do, and turn it into your career. Put the pieces of the puzzle together. For example, if you love animals, how can you work with animals for your career? How can you be of service to others? I love working with herbs and oils, and I love to write and speak. So now I write & teach classes about Aromatherapy! So what is it that you love to do?

8.  Treat People How You Want to be Treated

If you do not want to have others put you down, then don't do it. If you want someone to treat you with respect, then treat others with respect. If you want to be shown love, then love others. My point is, if you do not want it done or said to you, then do not say or do it to other people. It all comes back threefold, whichever way you decide.

9.  Let Go of the Past

When we hold onto past experiences, we continue to live the same experiences over and over again, because we have not learned the life lesson we need to learn from that experience.

The Past is called "The Past" for a reason. Don't go backwards, always remain looking forward. There is always a reason "WHY?" things did not work out the way you wanted them to. Spirit knows better than anyone what we need and when we need it.
For example, I was diagnosed with RSD/CRPS in 2002. I would NOT go back and change that. WHY? Because if I did not get RSD/CRPS, I would have never researched natural medicine which led me to where I am today.

10. Love Yourself Unconditionally

Like I said in Life Lesson #2,  We can't give something we truly do not hold within ourselves. So if you do not love yourself, how can we truly give love to other people? Loving yourself is not being cocky or selfish, it is being true to yourself and giving yourself the confidence that you need to live a successful and peaceful life. So C'mon! Tell me what it is you LOVE ABOUT YOURSELF the most in the comments below!

About The Author
Lisa Muria is the founder of Lifeshare University of Healing and Spiritually Speaking with Council of Light.
She holds a degree in Transformational Psychology, a diploma in Holistic Medicine and 10 additional certification in natural health and wellness.
Her goal is to take her own life lessons which are struggles turned to strength, and help others change their lives for the better, just like she did.
Learn More about Lisa HERE.

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