Learning to Identify Patterns and Habits
Identifying the patterns of behavior that cause pain in life is not an easy task but it is
possible.
Utilizing the posts within this blog will provide a lasting foundation
for new behaviors by finding habits that negatively impact your life and
change them positive empowering tasks.
Everyone has
the choice to create a future that is different from their past. These
next few blog posts hold famous techniques that have been used over the
years to create a healing system that will empower you to forgive your
past, heal your present, and transform your future. Lifeshare University
of Healing is here to help you transform your dreams into your destiny.
Have you tried to change. But, even with the best of intentions, you end up doing the
same old things in the same old ways? You've read books, taken various courses, and
bought the T-shirt, a firm resolution... and even told all of your friends about these
promises, only to return swiftly to the same old place in your life?
Sometimes you feel worse and then beat yourself up for breaking your own promises. You still feel overweight,
you still feel dissatisfied in the same job, you still follow the same
old cycle of "I love you and can't live without you – I hate to and
don't ever want to see you again." In your relationships. Does this
sound familiar to you?
Do you want to feel all parts
of you fully alive again? We learn our habits, emotionally therefore,
we can only come to healing by releasing emotionally. This cannot be
done by talking. It has been done by expressing the full range of
emotions and arriving at a
complete sense of compassion for not only
ourselves, but for our parents as well. This is a new education, and
re-education of the emotional part of ourselves.
We
can be let out of old patterns of behavior and can be taught, or more
importantly teach ourselves new ways of being. It is a very emotional
education, meaning that we feel our way through it, and by that method. It lodges in our own learning system. Without it, we would always have to have someone either doing the fishing for us are being paid to teach us how to fish. This way we can go and find our own food for our own nourishment.
As ritual, the process makes this passage into the world of self responsibility real and
true. Doing this work, you are taking time out of your regular life to undergo a set of
tasks and challenges, a kind of inner search for the Dragon. You confront this Dragon,
slay it (or sit down and have a cup of tea with it, learning the gift it can offer us), and
then go back into your regular life again to apply what you have learned. You are forever "marked" by this ritual.
The
Hoffman Process by Tim Laurence shows us that there are three pillars
of personal growth, education, and ritual. They build firm foundations
upon which we can turn from a human doing into a human being. The
Quadrinity model plays a key role. The Hoffman process explains that we
are composed of four parts.
The four parts are:
- Our emotions or feelings.
- Our intellect or thoughts.
- Our spirit or essence.
- Our physical realm or body.
Our emotional self develops
from birth onward. Its function is to provide us the feelings and
emotions needed in order to develop enjoyable and productive
relationships with others, as well as ourselves. We need relationships
to belong, to love and to be loved. When we experience any form of
emotional deprivation as children, we acquire feelings of rejection,
humiliation, abandonment, and betrayal, which we create in our
sub-sequent relationships. Our emotional well-being and growth can be
stunted. And we do not mature emotionally. Childish patterns can remain.
We say "no" without thinking or automatically reply “I can't do that”
when facing a new challenge because we are petrified of being
criticized.
The intellectual self develops from around six years onward. Its function is to provide
us with clear thought and reason in order to make decisions in a healthy
and rational way. It is required for the development of reason and to
ensure survival as we continue to grow and mature. We are driven forward
in the world by our need to know when this is not encouraged or is
overstressed in childhood, we develop feelings of being
stupid, inadequate, confused, or even mentally unbalanced.
A positive intellectual aspect provides us good judgment and discernment. A negative
aspect internalizes the voice of the critical parent by saying, "don't do that." And "don't
be so stupid." It has over develop its critical faculty and turned it in on itself or is always
looking
for faults and others. It's a side of us that is defensive,
self-righteous, hates to be wrong. and loves to have the last word.
As
emotional adults, we would like to be able to respond and articulate
our own feelings, but sadly, many of us, stay repressed or depressed.
The worst part of it is that we don't even keep the childlike part of
ourselves alive – the happy, enthusiastic, spontaneous person inside.
What we have in charged most of the time is a highly rational side, what
the Hoffman process calls the "adult intellect". We believe that we
have to look like we have it all together, sound intelligent, be
efficient and productive, and generally miss out on the fun. This has
disastrous consequences on our internal peace. At other times,
it's the emotional self or "child" inside that is in charge, hijacking
our responses to a situation. We come across as being dramatic and
highly anxious, or you want to throw in the towel and call it quits.
A large emphasis of this process is on reconciling the emotional (child or old brain) and
intellectual (adult or new brain) aspects of your personality. Through this, you can then
integrate the four parts of your being. To enable this to happen, first we have to
explore
in depth - the relationship with your caregivers when you were children
and to understand the effect that these relationships have had upon
your subsequent emotional, mental, physical, and spiritual development.
By
first understanding childhood experiences and then working through
them, you will be able to separate yourself from rigid belief systems
and parental character traits, as well as potential emotional trauma
that may have been sabotaging your adult life in one way or another.
Once this separation has occurred, you can experience a profound inner
healing with long-lasting results. You will be able to heal by letting
go of the past, and you will be able to live in the present.
you will also be getting to know a part of you that is free from any programs or
conditioning. We call this part, the spiritual self or essence inside. Think of it as the
diamonds that lives within each of us, the Clear Channel of light. Its always there, even if
we are completely caught up in our own day to day struggles. It's the voice within, the
part that leads us towards our greater potential. It is our connection with God and the
universe.
Your spiritual self will be much more available to you once you look at and do some
major cleansing of your own patterns. We dig up our garden of life and pull out the
weeds layer by layer that have grown over the years... until we get to the roots and let
you reconnect with your true self- your diamond essence. By doing this, you are led back
to your own truth and your own vision of how things really can be. You are put back in
touch with your own wisdom and intuition. You will learn to trust that the answers lie
within. Your spiritual self, what to experience love and joy arising from a source that
knows no limit.
The fourth element is one that you can touch and feel at any time. It's your physical
reality, the body. Throughout the posts stay in touch with how your body responds
when
you feel and emotion. Stay in touch with your body when you go through a
guided visualization. Listen to its response under stress and in times of peace. Learn to honor its own magic and mystery. It's the home of your spiritual self during your lifetime.
To help learn how to relax and free your mind of worry, visit our free podcast page at www.mindbodyspirit.podbean.com and listen to our free recorded guided meditations.
Allow me to ask you these few questions to get your mind going....
- What do you feel you need to let go of?
- Is there someone or something you need to forgive?
- What is holding you back from moving forward in life?
I would love to hear any feedback or responses during this series of blog posts so please do comment!
Have an Awesome Day!
Namaste!
Lisa Muria
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